When You Think You've Cracked It (And Then Get No Sleep)
One bad night doesn't undo your progress — here's what to remember
You've been doing everything right.
The bedtime routine is consistent. Your child has been sleeping through (or close to it). You've finally started to feel human again.
Then one night — out of nowhere — it all falls apart.
Multiple wake-ups. Tears. Refusal to settle.
And you're left lying there at 3am thinking: What did I do wrong?
Here's what I want you to remember:
You didn't do anything wrong.
Kids Are People Too
One of my well-known sayings — and I mean it.
Kids are people too.
I think we often get caught up in the idea that if we do everything right as parents, our children will act exactly the way they should.
But here's the truth:
We'll never raise perfect kids, no matter how good our parenting.
And they won't always respond the way we think they should — simply because they're people too.
Individuals who respond in their own individual way.
We can't always predict how their bodies and brains will react to:
Illness
Changes in routine
Development
Overstimulation
Their surroundings
A bad dream
A growth spurt
A tooth coming through
Processing a new skill
Sometimes there's no clear reason at all.
Your baby had a bad night. That's it. That's all it is.
Just like you have nights where you toss and turn for no reason. Just like you sometimes wake at 3am with your mind racing.
They're human. And humans have off nights.
One Bad Night Doesn't Undo Your Progress
When you think you've cracked it, only to have another sleepless night, it's not a moment to throw out everything you've been doing.
It's a moment to note: this was just a bad night.
Don't base your decisions or strategies on those bad nights.
Instead, notice where you've come from.
Maybe the bad nights are less frequent now.
Maybe the wake-ups are shorter.
Maybe the bedtime routine is easier.
Maybe your child settles more quickly than they used to.
You are making progress — not perfection.
The Danger of Reacting to One Night
Here's what often happens:
You have one terrible night. You're exhausted. You're frustrated. You think, "This isn't working."
So you change everything.
You try a different routine. You read a new book. You implement a new strategy.
And now your child is confused — because the consistent pattern they were learning has suddenly shifted.
One rough night isn't a pattern. It's a data point.
Before you change your approach, ask yourself:
Is this one bad night — or is this a consistent problem?
If it's one night? Ride it out. Get through it. Trust that tomorrow will be better.
If it's been happening for a week or more? Then yes, something might need adjusting.
Watch for Patterns, Not Isolated Incidents
Instead of reacting to one rough night, step back and look at the week as a whole.
Ask yourself:
How many nights this week were good?
How many were rough?
Are the good nights increasing or decreasing?
Is bedtime getting easier or harder overall?
Are wake-ups getting shorter or longer?
If a good pattern is emerging — keep doing what you're doing.
If you notice the pattern becoming consistently worse — make an adjustment.
But one night? That's just one night.
What Might Cause a Random Bad Night
Sometimes there's a clear reason. Sometimes there isn't. But here are common culprits:
Development
Your baby's brain is constantly growing. New skills — rolling, crawling, walking, talking — can disrupt sleep temporarily as they process what they're learning.
Teething
Even if you can't see a tooth yet, it might be moving under the gums. This can cause discomfort that disrupts sleep.
Illness
A cold coming on. A slight temperature. An upset tummy. Your baby might not seem sick during the day, but discomfort can wake them at night.
Overstimulation
A busy day. A party. Visitors. Too much screen time. All of this can make it harder for your baby's nervous system to settle.
Changes in routine
You traveled. You had guests. Bedtime was later than usual. Even small disruptions can throw sleep off for a night or two.
Growth spurts
Your baby might be genuinely hungry, even if they've been sleeping through for weeks.
Bad dreams
As babies get older and their imaginations develop, they can start having dreams — and not all of them are pleasant.
Or nothing at all
Sometimes, there's just no reason. They're human. Humans have off nights.
What to Do the Night After a Bad Night
The most important thing you can do is get back on track.
Don't panic. Don't change everything. Don't assume it's the new normal.
Just go back to what was working.
Here's what that looks like:
1. Stick to the same bedtime routine
Bath, story, cuddle, bed. Same order. Same time. Predictability is reassuring after a chaotic night.
2. Put them down at the usual time
Don't try to "make up" for lost sleep by putting them down earlier (unless they're clearly exhausted). Stick to your schedule.
3. Respond calmly if they wake
If they wake during the night, settle them the way you normally would. Don't introduce new habits (like bringing them into your bed if that's not your usual approach).
4. Give it a few days
If it was just a one-off, things will settle within 1-3 nights. If it continues beyond that, then reassess.
What Good Enough Sleep Looks Like
Good enough sleep doesn't mean your child sleeps perfectly every single night.
It means:
✅ Most nights, bedtime is calm
✅ Most nights, they settle without a battle
✅ Most nights, wake-ups are brief (or don't happen at all)
✅ Most mornings, everyone wakes feeling relatively rested
That's it.
Not perfection.
Not a textbook sleep chart.
Just good enough for your family to function, connect, and thrive.
I Always Joke...
I always joke that children should come with an off switch.
But they don't.
It's our job to keep their inconsistencies in perspective and remember: they are individuals who don't fit neatly into our idea of "normal."
Some nights will be easier than others.
Some weeks will be smoother than the one before.
Some months will feel like you've finally figured it out — and then something will shift again.
That's not failure. That's parenting a person.
When to Get Help
Most one-off bad nights resolve on their own within a few days.
But if you're noticing:
Bad nights are becoming more frequent
Sleep is getting consistently worse, not better
You've lost all progress and don't know why
You're dreading bedtime every single night
Your mental health is suffering
...then it might be time to get support.
Sometimes what starts as a blip becomes a pattern. And that's okay — patterns can be changed.
You don't have to figure this out alone.
What I Learned From 5 Kids
I've had five children. I've been through hundreds of bad nights.
Here's what I learned:
One bad night never undid the progress we'd made.
Yes, it was frustrating. Yes, I was exhausted. Yes, I wondered if we were back to square one.
But we weren't.
The next night was usually better. And the night after that, even better still.
The progress was still there — just temporarily obscured by one rough night.
The key was not to panic. Not to change everything. Not to assume we were failing.
Just to trust the process and keep going.
You Haven't Failed
If you had one terrible night after weeks of good sleep, you haven't failed.
Your child isn't broken.
Your approach isn't wrong.
You're not back to square one.
You're just parenting a person.
And people — even tiny ones — have off days too.
So when you have that one bad night (or even two), take a breath.
You haven't gone backwards.
You're still on the right track.
And tomorrow, you'll try again.
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About Christina
I'm Christina, mum of five (now aged 16-22), infant sleep coach, primary teacher, and class leader for Tots Play developmental classes in Peterhead, Aberdeenshire.
With over 30 years of hands-on experience with babies and toddlers, I help exhausted parents navigate sleep challenges with compassion, realistic strategies, and zero judgment.
I've survived hundreds of bad nights with 5 kids. One bad night never undid our progress. And it won't undo yours either.
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